Practically speaking, there may be no such thing as a ‘wrong’ choice if it leads to a better choice. This is part of our learning process. We certainly can’t use the knowledge that we have not yet acquired. We soon learn to ‘pick up the pieces’ and go on from there. Still, we do things that cost us a lot and we profoundly wish that we hadn’t done them.
The first lesson that we must learn is to not blame ourselves for trying. The old saying is; “if you are not making mistakes, you are not trying hard enough.” There are some kinds of mistakes that a person can’t afford to make, such as believing that accidents can’t happen to you. This is a foolish mistake and there is no excuse for making it except for taking a foolish chance. Teen aged drivers often think that the rules don’t apply to them, so they drive beyond their skill level and the road conditions. The results of this mistake can be permanent and often fatal. Other than that, there are many mistakes in judgment that only experience can correct, such as in choosing your friends and how you will behave with them.
The most damaging wrong choices outside of those that do harm to your body are the ones that set us on paths of improper development. These are the choices that determine who we are and who we shall be. I know a man who is very intelligent but ignored his high school education for the sake of high school sports. Now he is in his later years and he is foundering, still looking for a purpose for his life because he doesn’t have the scholastic background to qualify for a college education. He would have benefited from good counseling when he was in school, but now he is searching for a way to have a significant life. He was raised in a culture that emphasized ‘blue collar’ values and life style. Now he realizes that it has left him unfulfilled, and in his mind, it is too late to do anything about it.
He sold his long-term prospects for success for the short-term gratification of high school sports.
Everyone must live their own lives and make their own mistakes. What can a person do to minimize the effects of immature choices? Perhaps the most important single thing that you can do is to avoid making non reversible choices while you are in grade school. If you go on to college, you will likely follow a professional pursuit which will have its own objective.